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How to Deal With Past Emotional Baggage So It Doesn’t Ruin Your Present Relationship

How do you deal with past emotional baggage so it doesn’t ruin your present relationship? Here are five essential steps you must take:

1. Identify your issues. You can’t deal with something, if you don’t know what it is. Analyze your childhood and other significant relationships. What has happened in each of those that have left you with hurts, wounds, and scars? What roles did you play in those relationships and what patterns can you identify that are reoccurring? Once you know how you have been impacted by prior relationships, you can see which issues have the potential to affect your current ones.

2. Identify your triggers. One of the hallmarks of past emotional baggage is that it is riddled with triggers. A trigger is something that reminds you of the past, thereby bringing up the old feelings, memories, and reactions. If your prior partner cheated on you, a trigger might be his talking to another woman at a party or walking away from you to talk on his cell. These triggers would cause you to feel distrustful and suspicious.

3. Identify your reactions. Once you recognize that you have triggers, you can then identify your reaction to them. What do you do when you feel distrustful, suspicious, neglected, pressured, controlled, or mistreated? Past baggage often results in emotional reactivity which is often an over-reaction to current circumstances. When you know how you react to things that trigger your past baggage, you can begin to change them.

4. Identify your reality. Even when you know you are reacting to the past, the feelings can be so intense that it can be hard to react differently. Force yourself to identify your current reality. Do you have evidence your current partner is unfaithful? If not, then recognize that truth. Use your mind to counter the thoughts and feelings that aren’t reality today.

5. Identify your new behavior. Once you have done all these things, you can then choose how you want to act. It is okay to share your feelings with your partner, as long as you own them as a part of your past that you are working through. This helps your partner to understand who you are without feeling that you are blaming or accusing. Choose how you want to act and do the necessary work on yourself until that behavior becomes your new normal.

The Secret is NOT ‘The Secret’ at all – THE Secret is – ‘The Present’ – Read on

How do we achieve this state even whilst still functioning in the ‘real world’?

Simple (As are THE great truths of creation)-Occupy your Heart-mind.
Have you ever REALLY wondered just what is mean’t when you are in a meditation group & someone says: “Now, Centre-yourself”..Huh? What does that mean?
Well what they are really trying to say is: Occupy your heart-mind!!!!

Where IS the heart-mind?

Over 25 yrs of Natural therapy has led us to this greater truth that DIS-EASE = A DIS-CONTINUITY IN THE MEMORY THAT WE ARE DIVINE.
That is- The more we see ourselves as separate from Source, the more disease ensues.
So Glen, ‘What is it that separates us from the Divine?’ Simple; living in a space where the Divine is NOT.
Where is the Divine? You guessed it; In our Heart-mind!

What is the Heart mind?

As most of you know, reading these words, many of the great traditions esp. Yogic traditions recognise that our consciousness comprises at least 7 energy centres called chakras. From the Base to the Crown Chakras.
However, These 7 chakras comprise a hidden Trinity (Indeed the great truths of Man- ARE TRIUNE.) being- Each mind comprising 3 chakras:

Gut-Mind = Bottom 3 chakras

Heart-mind = Middle 3 chakras

Head-mind = Top 3 chakas.

These minds then overlap at the 3rd & 5th chakras.

Moreover, the:

Gut-mind represents the Past

Heart-mind represents the Present

Head-mind represents the Future.

Of course, many would say that the present is actually called the present because IT-IS-THE-PRESENT-FROM-THE-CREATOR-TO-US-TO-SPEND-MORE-TIME-IN.

So in truth the secret is NOT really ‘the secret’ at all! The real secret is THE PRESENT.

Now all this sounds really interesting, may be even profound. But how do we go about achieving this ‘Heart-mind’ state Glen?

The gift of life (variously called Chi, Prana, life-force, Vitality, Mana, Pneuma or Ki) is where it’s at.

What do I mean?

Well, claim more of your life force & you automatically claim more of your ‘god-force’. For indeed life IS a gift from the divine & the more we claim of it, the more we become ‘Divine-like’.
Now folks, I’m NOT getting off the heart-mind approach AT ALL. Indeed I’m just trying to widen it’s gambit.
Because we have observed that it-is-automatic, the more life-force you claim, the more your health grows, the more your heart-mind grows & hence the more your Connection with the Divine or ETERNAL-NOW grows.

Do you know you can grow more of your heart-mind via the humble act of eating simple Life force foods?
Did you know that people do NOT die with the excess of ‘death-power’ BUT the LACK of life force?
(Indeed, is the act of dying, ‘dis-honouring’ your life force?)
Did you know that a middle-age spread is actually a sign of a diminshment of your life force & hence a block to helping you occupy your heart mind?
Did you know you can then Honour your life force & Hence the Divine by choosing simple Life force foods?
Would you agree that if we are all ‘Children of God’, then when are we going to ‘grow-up’ & become co-creators ourselves? Indeed IF the creator is eternal, then so are we!

Therefore the simple act of eating becomes a sacred honouring of the divine!… This is NOT some flaky concept we are talking about here. These are real, concrete, simple daily measures you can take to CHOOSE LIFE.

So, we have discovered that you can mainly grow your Heart-mind when you can actually FEED-YOUR-LIFE-FORCE (By the foods that you choose)AS WELL as practice your various Meditative, Yogic, etc traditions!
For, in truth, these ancient practices ALSO buttress your life force too.